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4 men plead guilty to conspiring to rape drugged wives after exchanging wife-sharing fantasies

4 men plead guilty to conspiring to rape drugged wives after exchanging wife-sharing fantasies

A general view of the Supreme Court and Parliament House in Singapore on Sep 23, 2022. (File photo: CNA/Try Sutrisno Foo)

SINGAPORE: Four men who met on an online forum and discussed wife-sharing fantasies later put their plans into action by raping their accomplices’ drugged wives.

One woman was raped multiple times over at least seven years by different men while she was unconscious. This was while she was blindfolded and drugged by her own husband.

The case came to light when this woman discovered images of herself naked in a chat on her husband’s phone.

The four men, who cannot be named due to gag orders imposed by the court, pleaded guilty on Monday (Oct 31) to two charges each of conspiracy to rape, with various other charges taken into consideration. They are: K, L, M and N.

K, 44, was married with no children and was working in business development at the time of the offences. L, 52, was a business development manager and had three children with his wife at the time.

M, 45, was a company director at the time. He had three children with his ex-wife and lived with her at the time, even though he had remarried. N, 37, was a food deliveryman at the time and is the only one of the four who was single.

The main accomplice linked to their cases is a fifth man - J, a 41-year-old who married his wife in 2008. They have four children together.


The court heard that the men met their respective accomplices online as early as 2010, on the forum Sammyboy and other platforms for wife-sharing fantasies.

The court heard that the men discussed various wife-sharing fantasies, exchanged details of their sex lives and would share explicit images and footage.

J previously tried to show his wife pornographic videos to check if she would be willing to engage in a threesome.

His wife scolded him and told him that he was crazy, so he knew she was against the idea.

After this, he allegedly hatched a plan to sedate his wife for other men to have sex with her.

J got to know K on Sammyboy between 2010 and 2011. They agreed to use a sedative to sedate their wives, so that other men could rape them. After doing some research, they settled on a specific drug which they understood could make someone unconscious.

Using the drug that he had obtained from J, K spiked his wife's alcohol sometime before 2012. He blindfolded his wife after she fell unconscious and told J to come over.

J then raped K's wife while K watched and took photos. They did this again on a second occasion in 2012.

In February 2013, J's wife said she was feeling sick, and J took this chance to give her the drug before letting K rape his wife.

J installed a closed-circuit television camera in his bedroom to livestream images of his wife in the nude, as well as to showcase his sexual activities.

K also had a webcam in his bedroom for livestreaming purposes. After watching, the men would sometimes commend each other on putting on a "nice show", prosecutors said.

After their crimes, the two men shared images of the rape and sexual assault and "continued to reminisce" about what they did, the prosecutors said. 


The chats between the men resulted in J's wife discovering the crimes in January 2020. 

J was sleeping then when his wife noticed that his phone was playing a video. She picked it up and chanced on his Skype chat with K.

In the messages, she saw explicit images of herself and as she scrolled down the messages, she discovered that the men had been exchanging their wives for sex.

Shocked, J's wife slapped him awake. He deleted the incriminating chats and took his wife to K's home at her request. During the confrontation, K admitted having sex with J's wife while she was unconscious.

K also admitted to making his own wife unconscious for J to have sex with her. J's wife lodged a police report on Jan 2, 2020. Incriminating photos and videos seized from both men led to the identification of other accomplices.


In their chats, K told J that K's wife was "always yours" and said it would be nice if J could "manage to knock (her) up".

J and K also spoke of plans to get their wives to be raped and impregnated by other men, the court heard.

An excerpt from their Skype chats was read out in court. J wrote to K in April 2015, saying that women like their wives, "no matter how smart they think themselves are", will eventually get "outsmart by her man".

J also referred to their wives in crude language and said he bet both their wives still thought they were "chaste and loyal".

On top of these incidents, K also took explicit photos of his wife in various states of nudity in public places. He shared the images with other people including J and L and maintained a blog from 2010 to 2018 where he published the explicit images.

After his arrest, K was examined at the Institute of Mental Health and diagnosed with voyeuristic disorder. However, he was fully aware of the nature of his illegal acts, the court heard.


Another man in the group of four - L - first got to know K online around 2010 to 2011. L became acquainted with J after arranging to provide some sleeping pills. 

They later began sharing their wife-sharing fantasies and would meet several times for drinks. J's wife also went along.

In 2013, J sedated his wife with a drug before asking L to come over. While the children and helper were asleep, L raped the wife as J recorded the act.

L became acquainted with another co-accused, P, in 2010 and became close in 2015 as colleagues. They also began talking about wife-sharing.

While having drinks with his wife in August 2017, L drugged her before telling P that his wife was "ready". While his children and maid were sleeping in another room, L initially asked P to come over to watch them.

But when L was unable to perform the act, he asked P to rape his wife.

L's wife regained consciousness and realised someone other than her husband was attempting sex with her.

She later insisted that both L and P write confession letters, and they did. P was sentenced for his involvement in January.


M lived with his ex-wife and their three children in his mother-in-law's flat, even though he had remarried in 2011.

M met J on Sammyboy around 2010 and later expressed interest in having sex with J's wife.

In 2010, when J's wife told him that she was feeling sick, he took this chance to give her a drug, pretending it was medicine. His wife trusted him and took the drug.

When she was unconscious, J called M over and M raped his wife. 

In August 2018, M told his ex-wife that they would visit J for networking purposes, claiming they were in the same industry.

They went to J's master bedroom, where J offered them both drinks. He had spiked the ex-wife's drink. She became drowsy and began slurring in her speech.

J then molested her and raped her.

The fourth man, N, was a food deliveryman who lived with his father and was single. He would meet J at coffee shops to discuss the "perverse sexual fantasy" of wife-sharing, the prosecutors said.

He raped J's wife between 2017 and 2018 after J drugged her.


The prosecutors called the cases "unprecedented" and "abominable". 

The three prosecutors who handled the cases called for between 19 and 23 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane for K and M. They asked for between 11 and 16.5 years' jail for L, with another six months' jail in lieu of caning.

They will be asking for between 17 and 21 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane for N, who had no partner.

Deputy Public Prosecutor Gail Wong said the facts of the cases are unprecedented and involve "a gross betrayal of trust by husbands conspiring with other men against their partners".

"When a woman enters into marriage, she entrusts herself to her husband: She trusts that the man she sleeps beside will not harm her every night as she sleeps, she trusts that in sickness, the father of her children will not poison her with drugs passed off as medicine, she trusts that her husband will keep private their most intimate sexual moments together," she said of K's case.

K is represented by lawyers Mr Wilson Yeo and Mr Ang Boon Yaw, while L is represented by Mr Chua Hock Lu. M is defended by lawyer Mr Suang Wijaya and Ms Sophia Ng, while N is represented by lawyers Mr Shashi Nathan, Ms Laura Yeo and Mr Jeremy Pereira.

Mr Yeo asked for 17 to 18 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane for his client K.

He said there was "absolutely no excuse or reason for the crimes our client has committed", saying they were not only serious crimes, but also crimes committed against the "one person he loves the most".

However his client has admitted that he has "a serious problem" and is "not only remorseful but ashamed about it" and accepts that he cannot go unpunished and reaps what he sows, said Mr Yeo.

Mr Chua, who defended L, said his client is remorseful and penned his remorse since 2017, clearly incriminating himself when he wrote the letter of confession. 

He said his client "maintains a good relationship" with his wife now and looks forward to returning home. He asked for no imprisonment in lieu of caning for L, who is above 50 and cannot be caned.

Lawyer Mr Suang Wijaya, who acted for M, said the drugging of M's ex-wife was done by J. He asked for not more than 18 years' jail, comparing the case with another similar past case which drew more than 19 years' jail.

The judge adjourned the cases to a later date, as the court was still in session at 6.15pm. Lawyers for N had not yet begun their mitigation, and the case was adjourned for them to mitigate, as well as for any replies from the prosecution.

There are a total of 7 men involved in this series of cases: J, K, L, M, N, O and P.

The cases for J and O are pending.

Source: CNA/ll(ta)


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